Rupture Repair
What we do when a boundary is crossed
A rupture is any moment where consent, scope, or sovereignty is compromised. Repair is not punishment — it’s containment, clarity, and learning.
Step 1: Stop & Stabilise
- Pause the interaction.
- Reduce intensity.
- Reconfirm consent to continue or end.
Step 2: Name the rupture plainly
A simple statement is enough:
- “A boundary was crossed when X happened.”
Avoid blame spirals. Keep it factual.
Step 3: Contain the spill
- Stop further sharing immediately.
- If something was posted/shared wrongly, remove or redact if possible.
- Confirm what material is now considered out of bounds.
Step 4: Check impact & needs
Ask (briefly):
- What is needed right now to restore safety?
- Do we continue, pause, or end?
Step 5: Repair action
Choose what fits:
- apology/acknowledgement
- clarification of consent
- updated sharing limits
- time-out / cooling-off period
- mediated conversation later (if appropriate)
Step 6: Protocol update
Convert the rupture into a stronger membrane rule:
- What new rule would have prevented this?
Step 7: Close cleanly
End with explicit agreement on:
- what is held private
- what happens next
- when (or whether) you reconnect